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I was always scrawny kid.
Instead of blossoming into a supermodel body, I felt more like a teenage boy.
Flat chested. Skinny legs. Weird shaped nose. Frizzy hair.
A really hot guy told me in junior high I looked like a guy with a girl’s face. Nice.
When
all the girls in my class started showing off their cute butts in their
Jordache and Gloria Vanderbilt jeans (Am I aging myself?), I looked
like Kermit the Frog with a crap in my pants.
Yeah, life wasn’t easy.
I
never had body image issues the way a lot of girls do. Even though I
got made fun of, I was comfortable with my scrawny teenage body and knew
that, one day, I’d grow into myself.
Pretty much everyone
(especially women) has something about themselves they wish they could
change. If we’re not careful, those dislikes can turn into full-blown
self-loathing.
It’s not always easy to accept yourself when you
see or feel aspects of your personality or physical image that you do
not like. But rejecting yourself isn’t the answer either.
When
I get all down on myself, feel fat, slow, out of shape, or hear the
ranting of the sometimes crazy person inside of me, there are three
little things I tell myself that I believe may serve you to post on your
bathroom mirror or computer screen.
1. You Are One of a Kind
Every
single one of us is unique. We all have special gifts. You may have a
head for math, an inquisitive mind, a talent for singing in tune or
playing a musical instrument. Maybe you’re the quickest runner around or
have the best splits in the pool. Perhaps you’ve been born with the
grace of a dancer or the patience of a saint.
Whatever it is, you are one of a kind.
You’ve got something to offer than no one else has. And if you don’t see this, no one else will.
2. Love What You Got
You
were born with what you’ve got. And sure, you can clean up your diet,
get on the treadmill, and shop in the self-help section of the
bookstore, but the bottom line is that you can’t change the hardware.
Get
that negativity out of your head and never feel envy toward someone who
has the job you want, the relationship you think is better than yours,
the nicer house, the longer legs, the bigger boobs, or the killer
abs. It’s an epic waste of time.
Even if you don’t feel all that special, you are.
It
doesn’t matter what someone else has. All that matters is what gifts
you have been brought into the world with and what you plan to do with
them.
You can either choose to spend your time obsessing about
what you wish you had, or you can accept what you were given and work
within the perimeters of it.
You gotta love yourself for who you are. Period. If you don’t, no one else will be able to love or accept you either.
3. Write Yourself a Love Letter
It’s so easy to focus on the negative.
In fact, I bet many of you, whether you know it or not, actually thrive on the negative.
Next
time you are having a hard time, are feeling down in the dumps, or not
accepting of yourself, write yourself a love letter. Include everything
you love about yourself and the world you’re living in.
Dear Me,
I
love you because you are so compassionate. You care deeply about
everyone around you. You take such good care of your body and your
family. You find time to exercise almost every day, even though your
life is busy and chaotic. You have a thriving career. You are a fabulous
mentor to many entrepreneurs and health coaches worldwide. Oh, and you
have a really cute puppy and awesome kids.
Love, Me
Then,
take your words and turn them into post-it notes and colorful cards and
place those words around you. Notice how those few words make your
feel.
Spending time hating yourself can only be a hindrance. It won’t help you grow. It will only make you more miserable.
If you want to feel good, you have to train yourself to feel good.
A love letter is the perfect reminder of how incredible you are.
I have just shared my three little things I do to accept myself when I’m not feeling so accepting.
